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Post by DigitalDwarf on Jan 9, 2004 3:38:49 GMT -5
Okay, this is a bit off topic, well not really, because we normally talk about aimless shit anyways. My question to all of you is when does age become a factor in dating? I guess I will just tell you my situation. I am 20 and the lady is 16(almost 17), now I know it seems like a big spread and in my opinion it is huge, but most of my friends say "it's not that big of a difference" and the rest of them say shit like "Dood, just let her suck your dick". It's obvious that she likes me and her parents all seem cool about it(her mom was actually my second day teacher), but I don't know, I have always been hung up on the whole age thing. I don't know what to do about this Dilemma, on one hand i'm like I guess it is okay, but on the other i'm like "damn, what are you a pedafile?". Now I know most of you are younger than me, which is groovy because I need some different perspectives on the subject. So, seriously what do you think about the whole thing? Am I just being a whiny bitch and should just go for it, or would that be a grave mistake damming me into perminant pedafile status. Please give me serious answers.
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Post by CoKeS on Jan 9, 2004 8:06:00 GMT -5
4 years isnt that big of a deal in my eyes, 8-10 years is too much of a difference to me. and if her parents are cool with it than thats all you really need because thats where the trouble starts most of the time when it comes to situations like these.
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Post by iNCaSinOOuT on Jan 9, 2004 9:53:28 GMT -5
i think 4 years are ok... i think more than 8 years (like CoKeS said) are too much.... most of the people who have partners have a difference between 1 and 5 years... so it's ok
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Post by SpectralfiRes on Jan 9, 2004 13:54:38 GMT -5
I'm 28 and I say run for your life from her. You shouldnt even hang around girls that age if you are in your 20s. Its just asking for trouble.. Dont be That guy man. When your that age(15,16,17) you think its ok of course but once you get older you realise its not and you'll find most your friends your own age will tell you not to do it.. Anway its just my sage advice  . Its trouble.. Just get a gf your own age and you wont have to worry about any of the bullshit. Plus down the road when you meet a girl your own age and have a meaningful relationship this shit will come up and you will look like That guy.. Its alll bad man. And parents can get reeal wierd reeal quick sometimes with that shit. .Like when their daughter comes home crying her eyes out because you broke her heart. Thats when the police gets involved and you go to jail and you are on the pedaphile list.. just not worth it.. |
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Post by piesore on Jan 9, 2004 18:17:10 GMT -5
I would say the older you get, the less it matters, like a 30 year old dating a 26 years old is perfectly natural. At this age, I would say its on the fence...its not something I would do, but that's b/c I don't have the hots for anyone 4 years younger than me at the moment. I think you should try to find someone your own age, and if you still feel that way in a few years, then go for it...these laws are not completely arbitrary, and while I'm younger than you, I think its safe to say, in 10 years or so, or when/if you ever get a daugther that age, you'll understand their purpose more. But I think legally, you might be okay...I think age of consent is 16 in a lot of states, only 18 in a few www.ageofconsent.com will tell you. |
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Post by DigitalDwarf on Jan 10, 2004 1:53:18 GMT -5
So, as of right now it is half and half with you all. You all have really good opinions and points. I really don't want to have sex with her or anything at this point because I respect women and their opinions and she is against premarital sex, so I really don't think that would be an issue. I don't know, I don't think her parents would ever morph into some lawsuit happy bastards, they are pretty cool people. SpectralfiRes, do you have experience on the situation, not trying to talk you down or anything, you just seem to know a lot about it. I don't know maybe I should just go with it and if anything gets too weird for me then I will back out.
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Post by motherprussia on Jan 10, 2004 5:49:12 GMT -5
go for it...it's really a matter of the age she acts...(and my mom was 18 and my dad was 25 when they met...and they got married shortly after to the chagrin of some family members...they're still together some 26 years later and very happy)...
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Post by SpectralfiRes on Jan 12, 2004 10:21:24 GMT -5
The only experience I have is when I was younger I dated a girl for a few years then she dumped me for some 30yo loser.. I was just like what a sick bastard to wanna bang a 16yo girl. But really it was a long time ago and lets face it 15, 16, 17yo girls are infatuated(sp?) with guys who are 20-25 so its just too easy to pick up some high school chic and prey on their insecurities. But you said sex isnt a factor so really its ok I guess. I just know that when I was 20 sex was my primary reason for dating.. hell it still is! hehe. But you say its not so if she is a cool chic to hang out with I guess theirs no problem.
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Post by DigitalDwarf on Jan 12, 2004 19:01:05 GMT -5
I actually plan on asking her parents permission to date her.....kinda like getting their blessing, or courting her if you will (hey William Wallace from Braveheart was supposed to get his lover's fathers permission) is that Gay, or do you think it would go over well with them? Opinions needed.......
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Post by DigitalDwarf on Jan 12, 2004 19:02:21 GMT -5
By the way thank you for your blessing, Spec.  |
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Post by motherprussia on Jan 12, 2004 19:08:57 GMT -5
eh, if i were you i'd just go for it...parents might get in the way regardless of what you think now...i don't know...
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Post by soniktruth on Jan 19, 2004 16:45:21 GMT -5
fucking pervs
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Post by CoKeS on Jan 19, 2004 18:16:39 GMT -5
yup, thats us all right
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. Its trouble.. Just get a gf your own age and you wont have to worry about any of the bullshit. Plus down the road when you meet a girl your own age and have a meaningful relationship this shit will come up and you will look like That guy.. Its alll bad man. And parents can get reeal wierd reeal quick sometimes with that shit. .Like when their daughter comes home crying her eyes out because you broke her heart. Thats when the police gets involved and you go to jail and you are on the pedaphile list.. just not worth it..
